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Loving Men | Crucible

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Given the current cidcumstances, we regret that the Loving Men at Laurieston event has been cancelled. We leave the information here, so you can get a flavour of future Loving Men events we hope to hold when the situation improves.

A Loving Men Adventure in Intimacy

01-07 August 2020

With Alfred Hurst, Andy Butterfield, Dennis L Carney,
Sanjay Kumar, Tim Foskett and Tom Cowan


A container.....
in which substances can be heated to high temperatures.....
allowing different elements to interact.....
leading to the creation of something new.

This year we return to Laurieston Hall, the birthplace of Loving Men and home to us since 2003.

Crucible is a week-long adventure in intimacy for gay, bi and queer men, & non-binary people who want to develop their capacity to love men. Expect a fair bit of heat, community & connection, moments of challenge & confusion, opportunities for contemplation, exploration, and a lot of fun.

We'll spend a week in the crucible of Laurieston Hall exploring the joys and challenges of intimate relating, in a variety of ways, using discussions, exercises, touch, nature, play, listening and care.

We welcome all gay, bi, queer and trans men, and non-binary people, who want to develop their capacity to love others. We particularly encourage participation from: Black, Asian and ethnic minority men; men with disabilities; HIV positive and negative men; younger and older men; trans men and non-binary people who are attracted to men.

Loving Men: Crucible starts with dinner at 6:30 pm on 01 August (please arrive anytime from 5:00 pm) and finishes at 10:30 am after breakfast on 07 August.

Laurieston Hall is set in stunning natural surroundings and is run a by a community. Guests participate in a washing up / kitchen rota and a community activity during the week.



All places include all meals, tea & coffee, and all activities. The menu is vegetarian, with vegan and other options available. Please ensure you record any dietary needs on the Further Information form, which comes up after you have made your booking.

Standard places at £595.00 include accommodation within the Hall. Most places are in multi-bed rooms. There are some smaller and single rooms, which are reserved for those with special needs.

Camping / non-resident places places at £495.00 are available for those who prefer to camp within the grounds or stay at a local B&B. If camping, you need to bring a tent. Mattresses and pillows are available for campers' use at the Hall. If you stay in a B&B, you need to book and fund this yourself.

We offer Concessionary places at £395.00 for those with a limited income. Please note: Concessionary Places are intended to enable people on low incomes to participate in Crucible. There is a strictly limited number, so if you can afford a standard place, please purchase one of those, leaving the concessionary places for those who really need them. These passes are available for:

  • registered students
  • people under 25
  • people over 65
  • unemployed people
  • those receiving benefits
  • people on a very low income

If you wish to apply for a concessionary pass, please indicate your reason when completing the Booking Form, using the drop-down list provided. Please send us a scan of supporting evidence (ID Card, Student Card, Driving Licence, Benefit statement etc) after booking your place.


Excellent facilitation - warm, welcoming, encouraging, professional, knowledgeable and responsive.

Loving Men at Laurieston is a once-a-year adventure for gay, bi, trans and queer men who want to develop more intimacy in relationships.

The week enables you to:

  • immerse yourself in a different kind of living and loving for 6 days
  • make connections with like-minded others
  • develop skills to take back into your life in the art of intimacy, friendship and forming meaningful relationships
  • and have some fun!

    We'll spend the week in a supportive and loving community, using a range of activities to build deeper relationships with other men.

    "Thank you for a fantastic and varied event. Loving Men gets better and better."

    There'll be many opportunities to stretch your comfort zone and gain personally from the respect, care and love of other men.

    Activities will include:

  • structured time together as a large group
  • facilitated small groups
  • exercises and activities for getting to know yourself and others better
  • opportunities to practice and develop relating skills
  • the right to opt out of an activity if it isn't right for you
  • delicious vegetarian food
  • indoor and outdoor fire-side chats
  • the beautiful grounds and countryside surrounding Laurieston Hall
  • sweating in the sauna and swimming in the loch
  • free time for rest, chat, fun and laughter (....and volleyball too!)

    "Loving Men was a remarkable week for me. I emerged with many wonderful memories and a new found confidence in my body, heart and mind."

  • Residential Events

    Non-residential Events

    Booking, deposits, final payments and cancellation

  • the standard deposit is £150
  • your balance is due 6 weeks before the start of the event
  • your place and deposit may be forfeited if we do not receive your balance 4 weeks before the start of the event
  • if you cancel 6 weeks or more before the event, we will return your deposit, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs
  • if you cancel between 2 and 6 weeks before the event, we will refund your payment for the event, minus the £150 deposit
  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Booking, payments and cancellation

  • fees are payable in full at the time of booking
  • if you cancel your place 6 weeks or more before the event, we will return your fee, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs
  • if you cancel between 2 and 6 weeks before the event, we will return 50% of your fee
  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Insurance

    For all events, Loving Men advise you to take out travel insurance to cover yourself for illness, emergency or cancellation


    Conduct at Events

    To ensure your own and others' welfare, Loving Men asks you to:

  • be responsible for your own safety and exercise due care for yourself throughout the event
  • be respectful towards others and of their personal boundaries
  • take care of the venue and equipment, and respect the boundaries of the host organisation