Loving Men at New Year '19
Buckland Hall, Brecon Beacons, Wales
Sunday 29 December 2019 to Thursday 02 January 2020
Loving Men at New Year is a celebration. There are lots of activities, including a host of optional workshops to join in - on themes that help you make connections, explore intimacy, have some fun, step outside of your comfort zone and reflect on your year. Click here to see the programme for last year's event.
There's also fantastic countryside to explore and delicious vegetarian food will be served throughout the event.
Last year there were more than 80 loving men present, spanning five decades in age. We had a wild, tender, meaningful, and fun time.
Please be aware that LM@NY is a personal development event, of some intensity, not just a party. Living together in a large house with nearly 90 men, and working on the themes of intimacy, connection and relationships is inevitably both challenging and pleasurable for most people. Please bear this in mind when you decide to book.
LM@NY takes place at Buckland Hall , a spectacular country house, set in the Brecon Beacons National Park, Wales. Think open fires, comfortable sofas, beautiful meeting spaces, and wide open views of our very own Welsh valley from every window.
This year's theme: Same, Same, DifferentUnderstanding and exploring difference in our intimate relationships - including how power, privilege and prejudice affect what goes on between us as gay, bi and queer men living in a heteronormative world
Some of the deep challenges of intimate relationships involve how to accept, be with and/or respond creatively to the differences we discover between ourselves and our lover(s).
Yes, we often share similarities with other people – the human condition has universal traits after all – but when two people get intimate with each other, even very similar people, it’s the differences between them that stick in the craw and dig in the ribs.
Some commentators go so far as to say that the spiritual task of humanity is learning to love each other despite and through our different ways of seeing the world - and the different wants, needs and preferences we each bring to our connections with others.
As if that wasn't complicated enough, we also live in a world which structures in power and privilege for some groups of people and disadvantage and discrimination for others. We play out our intimate dances on uneven playing fields.
Structures and systems such as racism, ageism, ableism, classism, body shape elitism and discrimination associated with health factors such as HIV, afford certain groups of people more advantage and privilege while depriving others - often through the mechanisms of prejudice, discrimination and silent collusion.
Come and join us for some meaningful conversations and varied activities exploring how we can overcome these barriers and find ways forward to achieving real intimacy in relationships.
We hope you leave LM@NY19 inspired, informed and feeling good about the contribution you can make in your relationships to the life-long project of celebrating our differences, sharing power and privilege, challenging prejudice and loving well.
Dates & Times:
Loving Men at New Year '19 starts on 29 December. You are welcome to arrive after 5:00 pm, for supper at 6:15 pm. If you are likely to be late, please email Peter to warn him. The event closes on 02 January, with departures by 2:30 pm. As far as possible, please arrange your arrival and departure times so you can benefit from the entire event.
There is a wide range of accommodation, both within the Hall and as a non-resident. For the latter, you are responsible for booking and funding a local B&B or hotel place. The single rooms at the Hall share bathroom facilities with one other single room. All the other rooms within the Hall have bathrooms and WCs en-suite. There is 1 4-bed room and 2 twin rooms in the Lakeview Cottage annexe. These rooms have shared use of 2 bathrooms.
Twin rooms can be set up as twins or as doubles, as required. All places are on divan beds, apart from Mattress places, which are fully made-up beds with mattresses, but without divan bases. The mattress places are within Dormitory Rooms (4 beds, with 1 or 2 mattress places) and Triple Rooms (2 beds and 1 mattress place).
The choices are:
- Mattress place: £415
- Dormitory: £480
- Triple en-suite: £510
- Twin en-suite: £550
- Single: £720
- Non-resident: £415
Last year’s event was fully-booked in October, so we recommend booking early. To make a booking, please review our Terms & Conditions, then visit our on-line shop. Your place is secured with a deposit of £150, using a Credit or Debit Card. The balance is due 6 weeks before the event.
Assistance for men on low incomes may be available from the Bursary Fund .
Booking, deposits, final payments and cancellation
Booking, payments and cancellation
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