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Loving Men | LM@NY19

White smalladventures in intimacy

Loving Men at New Year '19

Buckland Hall, Brecon Beacons, Wales

Sunday 29 December 2019 to Thursday 02 January 2020



There are currently no vacancies available for LM@NY19. A limited number of places may be available nearer the event. Please email Peter if you want to join the Waiting List.



Loving Men at New Year is a celebration. There are lots of activities, including a host of optional workshops to join in - on themes that help you make connections, explore intimacy, have some fun, step outside of your comfort zone and reflect on your year. Click   here  to see the programme for last year's event.

There's also fantastic countryside to explore and delicious vegetarian food will be served throughout the event.

Last year there were more than 80 loving men present, spanning five decades in age. We had a wild, tender, meaningful, and fun time.

Please be aware that LM@NY is a personal development event, of some intensity, not just a party. Living together in a large house with nearly 90 men, and working on the themes of intimacy, connection and relationships is inevitably both challenging and pleasurable for most people. Please bear this in mind when you decide to book.

LM@NY takes place at   Buckland Hall , a spectacular country house, set in the Brecon Beacons National Park, Wales. Think open fires, comfortable sofas, beautiful meeting spaces, and wide open views of our very own Welsh valley from every window.


This year's theme: Same, Same, Different
Understanding and exploring difference in our intimate relationships - including how power, privilege and prejudice affect what goes on between us as gay, bi and queer men

Some of the deep challenges of intimate relationships involve how to accept, be with and/or respond creatively to the differences we discover between ourselves and our lover(s).

We often share similarities with other people – the human condition has universal traits after all – but when two people get intimate with each other, even very similar people, it is the differences between them that dig in the ribs and can become the foundation stones upon which psychological walls are built.

Some commentators go so far as to say that the spiritual task of humanity is learning to love each other despite and through our different ways of seeing the world - and the different wants, needs and preferences we each bring to our connections with others.

As if that wasn't complicated enough, we also live in a world which structures in power and privilege for some groups of people and disadvantage and discrimination for others. We play out our intimate dances on uneven playing fields.

Structures and systems such as racism, ageism, ableism, classism, body shape elitism, gender normativity and discrimination associated with health factors such as HIV, afford certain groups of people more advantage and privilege while depriving others - often through the mechanisms of prejudice, discrimination and silent collusion.

Come and join us for some meaningful conversations and varied activities exploring how we can overcome these barriers and find ways forward to achieving real intimacy in relationships.

We hope you leave LM@NY19 inspired, informed and feeling good about the contribution you can make in your relationships to the life-long project of celebrating our differences, sharing power and privilege, challenging prejudice and loving well.


Dates & Times:

Loving Men at New Year '19 starts on 29 December. You are welcome to arrive after 5:00 pm, for supper at 6:15 pm. If you are likely to be late, please    email Peter   to warn him. The event closes on 02 January, with departures by 2:30 pm. As far as possible, please arrange your arrival and departure times so you can benefit from the entire event.



There is a wide range of accommodation, both within the Hall and as a non-resident. For the latter, you are responsible for booking and funding  a local B&B or hotel place.  The single rooms at the Hall share bathroom facilities with one other single room. All the other rooms within the Hall have bathrooms and WCs en-suite. There is 1 4-bed room and 2 twin rooms in the Lakeview Cottage annexe. These rooms have shared use of 2 bathrooms.

Twin rooms can be set up as twins or as doubles, as required. All places are on divan beds, apart from Mattress places, which are fully made-up beds with mattresses, but without divan bases. The mattress places are within Dormitory Rooms (4 beds, with 1 or 2 mattress places) and Triple Rooms (2 beds and 1 mattress place).

The choices are:

  • Mattress place: £415
  • Dormitory: £480
  • Triple en-suite: £510
  • Twin en-suite: £550
  • Single: £720
  • Non-resident: £415



There are currently no places (either resident or non-resident) available for LM@NY19. We are making places available in two relaeases and the first release is sold out. To join a waiting list for places that may become available in the second (limited) release, please email Peter


Bursary Fund:

Assistance for men on low incomes may be available from the   Bursary Fund .


This is a wonderful way to celebrate yourself and the turning of the year. It is a seasonal rite of passage for the 21st Century.

Residential Events

Non-residential Events

Booking, deposits, final payments and cancellation

  • the standard deposit is £150

  • your balance is due 6 weeks before the start of the event

  • your place and deposit may be forfeited if we do not receive your balance 4 weeks before the start of the event

  • if you cancel 6 weeks or more before the event, we will return your deposit, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs

  • if you cancel between 2 and 6 weeks before the event, we will refund your payment for the event, minus the £150 deposit

  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Booking, payments and cancellation

  • fees are payable in full at the time of booking

  • if you cancel your place 6 weeks or more before the event, we will return your fee, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs

  • if you cancel between 2 and 6 weeks before the event, we will return 50% of your fee

  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Insurance

    For all events, Loving Men advise you to take out travel insurance to cover yourself for illness, emergency or cancellation


    Conduct at Events

    To ensure your own and others' welfare, Loving Men asks you to:

  • be responsible for your own safety and exercise due care for yourself throughout the event

  • be respectful towards others and of their personal boundaries

  • take care of the venue and equipment, and respect the boundaries of the host organisation