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Loving Men | Looking for Love

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Looking for Love - in all the right places



To book your place, please first have a look at the Loving Men Terms & Conditions, then go to our Eventzilla booking page.

A three-day Loving Men residential event: 7-10 August 2017
Poulstone Court, Herefordshire

with Dennis Carney and Tim Foskett

Looking for Love is a three-day exploration of the ways we seek out love in our lives. Whether single or in relationship(s) we each have relational habits and styles, usually set in motion in our childhood, then fashioned by the intimate and not-so-intimate life events we experience.

  • Maybe you hint at what you want with your lover - but never risk communicating directly
  • Or do you demand connection with such ferocity that you frighten people away?
  • Do you endlessly circle the man of your dreams - but never reveal your true feelings?
  • Or perhaps you cultivate an image of independence, to hide needing love from other people?

    However you 'look' for love, this workshop is an opportunity to reflect on the strategies you use, and experiment with different ways of connecting with other gay and bi men.

    As usual on a Loving Men event there'll be a welcoming, compassionate and fun group in which to understand your personal style of Looking for Love, and many opportunities to experiment interpersonally, get feedback if you wish and try some other options on for size!

    We'll work in small and large groups - and using a variety exercises to make connections, reflect, experiment and play. There'll be free time each day to explore the grounds and stunning local countryside. For more information about getting the most out of a Loving men event click here.



    Our venue for Looking for Love is the beautiful Poulstone Court in Herefordshire, set in the Wye valley, an area of outstanding natural beauty. It is accessible from the Midlands and the South of England. Approximately 3 hours drive from London and 4 hours on public transport.

    Set in beautiful grounds and close to a river with swimming opportunities. The views from all parts of the house are stunning providing an uninterrupted vista of the rolling Wye valley landscape.

    The address is: Poulstone Court, Kings Caple, Herefordshire HR1 4UA



    Accommodation is in twin, triple and dorm rooms. Some camping spots are also available.

  • Dormitory Rooms (4/5 Beds): Early Bird £385 / Full Price £405
  • Triple Rooms: Early Bird £400 / Full Price £425
  • Twin Rooms: Early Bird £420 / Full Price £440
  • Camping: Early Bird £375 / Full Price £385
  • External B&B Place: £375 + cost for B&B accommodation you book for yourself
  • Local B&Bs

    Red Rail Farm, Hoarwithy, Hereford HR2 6QT: 01432 840432

    Wiggles Brook Gipsy B&B, 2 Brookside Cottages, Hoarwithy HR2 6QJ: 01432 840575

    The Old Mill, Hoarwithy, Hereford HR2 6QH: 01432 840602

    or others close to Kings Caple, Herefordshire.

    The Early Bird price ends on 31st May 2017.

    For people who have a medical or psychological need to have a single room in order to participate we may be able to accommodate you. In this instance, please email Peter, our admin guy.


    Arrival and Departure

    You are welcome to arrive between 2.00 and 3.30 pm on Monday 7 August. We will start with an introductory session at 4 pm. We will depart on Thursday 10 at 4 pm.

    As far as possible, please arrange your transport to and from Poulstone to coincide with the event start and finish times.



    The menu at Poulstone is vegetarian, delicious and plentiful. The recipes have been developed over a period of twenty-five years. They are hugely popular, so much so that Poulstone has now its own recipe book. Poulstone also caters for vegan and gluten free diets.



    To book your place, please first have a look at the Loving Men Terms & Conditions, then go to our Eventzilla booking page.

    For more information, please email Peter or call him.


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    Loving Men: Terms & Conditions

    Booking, deposits and final payments

  • the standard deposit is £150

  • your balance is due 6 weeks before the start of the event

  • your place and deposit may be forfeited if we do not receive your balance 4 weeks before the start of the event.

  • if you cancel more than 6 weeks before the event, we will return your deposit, less a £30 contribution to administrative costs

  • if you cancel 6 weeks to 2 weeks before the event, we will refund your payment for the event, minus the £150 deposit

  • if you cancel within 14 days of the start of the event, Loving Men reserve the right to retain your full fee

  • Loving Men advise you to take out travel insurance to cover yourself for illness, emergency or cancellation

  • Conduct at the event
    To ensure your own and others' welfare, Loving Men asks you to:

  • be responsible for your own safety and exercise due care for yourself throughout the event

  • be respectful towards others and of their personal boundaries

  • take care of the venue and equipment, and respect the boundaries of the host organisation